That is a question becoming more popular today. The outbreak of feminism recently has truly put a bad taste in the mouths of a lot of people on the topic of being a stay-at-home-mum.
While shopping one evening, I overheard two younger girls in their early 20’s talking and catching up with each other since their high school days. One, whom we will call Julie, was a mother and married while the other, whom we will address as Kate, was pursuing college.
Upon hearing that Julie was married with a baby boy, Kate was glad to hear the good news. Kate then asked Julie what she does for work and Julie’s response was, “I just stay home with the little one. I’m a stay at home mom,” to which Kate replied back, “Oh no, Julie, you are better than that.”
As a SAHM myself, Kate’s words offended me. The reasons why many women around the world want to become a parent at home vary from person to person, but neither of them can deny the foundational reason we all seem to share: We don’t want to miss a thing in the lives of our child.
I had to reach out to my good friend, Olivia, who is also a SAHM and phenomenal parent to her son. I needed some stable reasons other than mine of why would a woman choose to stay home with their child.
“I’ve made a point to be as hands-on as I possibly can be,” said Olivia. “I wanted to be the one exposing him to new textures and foods, feeling the wind for the first time, feeling mud between his toes, learning to draw with crayons and markers.” When remembering all the memories, she smiled and continued, “We do a LOT of arts and crafts. This time that they’re little is so short, and I’m the one who carried him for 9 long months and gave birth to him, so I felt like I would be cheating myself and my son if I wasn’t there for his everyday life.”
I couldn’t help but to nod in agreeance as Olivia poured out her heart and her passion for her son and the amazing relationship they have together. Maybe the reason many parents don’t have that eternal, intimate relationship with their child is because they let daycares take over.
“For me it just goes against my nature as a mother to drop my young baby off with complete strangers all day,” said Olivia, “It bothers me knowing he’s not getting the attention I can give him and then they may become more comfortable with their caretakers instead of their actual parents.”
Being a stay-at-home-mom is no picnic, but the results taste so sweet. It’s a blessing of a duty to be able to perform, but it will challenge you as a parent and even more as a human being. You will find out who you are and what you are made of.
Being a stay-at-home mom is the most important job in the world because us parents who stay at home with our children are shaping the future generations, instilling values and morals, and studies show that children who are with their parents more from a young age grow up to be more secure in themselves.
Being a stay-at-home mom means wiping tears, kissing boo-boos, picking boogers, preparing meals, coming up with new and exciting activities, teaching, bathing, and being the comforter. When it comes to being a stay-at-home-mom, everything in your child’s life begins and ends with you.
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